You know you're curious.
Butt plugs may seem pretty risqué, but a lot of women swear by them as a source of pleasure.
Of course, even if you are intrigued, chances are you're not going to run out and buy a toy for booty play without knowing what you're getting yourself into. Right?
So we asked experts what the hell these are for, why some people think they're ahhhmazing, and how to use one.
What's The Point?
Similar to your c-spot and G-spot, there are tons of ultra-sensitive nerve endings in your back door, says relationship coach Cory Honickman, PsyD. That means stimulating it can bring you of a ton of sexual pleasure whether you're playing with yourself or with a partner. And, depending on how the plug is used, the female skene glands (also known as the female prostate) may be stimulated, which can be a pleasant surprise, she says.
Besides reaching erogenous zones you didn't know you had, these toys can also be used as a form of kink, says Honickman. More specifically, people use them with domination and submission play. Using butt plugs can be a way for someone who enjoys submission to explore feeling vulnerable or humiliated in a way that gives them pleasure, says Honickman. "Women who have experienced anal orgasms say it’s a very deep and powerful sensation,” she says.
Another reason people use butt plugs is to prepare the rectum for anal play, she says. And that's an important step if you're looking to work up to something bigger, like a penis or larger sex toys, says Honickman. “Using a butt plug gets the rectum primed for something to enter it," she says. "That ups your chances of having more pleasure and less pain during anal play."
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How To Use A Butt Plug
Of course, like with anything you're trying for the first time, you shouldn't jump in full force. Be prepared. “Don’t wait until the heat of the moment to get lubes, condoms, etc., lined up before the action commences,” warns Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D., certified sex therapist and resident expert at adamandeve.com. (You can always buy both condoms and lube from the Women's Health Boutique.)
For starters, make sure you're very aroused before even getting close to inserting a butt plug, says Honickman. This can make the sensation less jarring and more of a turn on.
Next, take your time. Whether you're using one with a partner or by yourself, inserting a butt plug too fast can actually hurt. Start by using fingers (make sure your fingernails are trimmed) first to get used to the sensation. And make sure you're using lots of lube from the start, says Van Kirk. Taking these steps will help ensure that you don't get anal micro-abrasions, which can increase pain and potentially cause an infection, she says. When you feel ready, insert the toy very slowly into your rectum.
Once it's in, you can choose your own adventure, says Van Kirk.
Though some women do pull it in and out (as you would with a sex toy made for your vagina), the plugs are designed to create a sensation of fullness in your rectum, says Van Kirk. Other options include leaving it in for "double penetration" during masturbation, vaginal intercourse, mutual masturbation, or oral sex, she says. Also, Van Kirk says that some women enjoy the sensation so much they wear them while not having sex. To each their own sexual adventure.
Van Kirk also suggests quickly removing the plug during an orgasm for an added sensation. But feel free to experiment with whatever feels right to you.
A few safety precautions to keep in mind: "Always play with an anal plug with a flared base or string so that you can easily retrieve it when play is done," says Van Kirk. Also, never insert a toy or fingers into the vagina after anal play without washing it first, she says. Otherwise, you may introduce bacteria to the vagina and get an infection. "
What To Buy
For first timers: This very affordable toy is under $6, which is great if you're not sure if anal play is something you're into yet. Plus, the jeweled base keeps the toy from wandering too far up your backdoor and makes it easy to remove.
Akstore Small Super Steel Fetish Plug Anal Butt Personal Sex Massager, $5.99, amazon.com
For advanced users: This set of four plugs allows you to work your way up in size, which can be fun for someone who's definitely into the booty stuff.
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